Why you shouldn’t date someone who’s so good “on paper”
You need more than just a pretty face to make a relationship last
Not many people in my life know that I used to be an extremely religious person. Not by heart, just on the outside.
That’s what happens when you grew up in a thick conservative Muslim background. My problem isn’t with religion but more with the people who use it as an excuse to do bad things.
So every decision I made in my life has to “align” with it. This includes my preference for a partner.
The number one preference many people in my hometown has is that your partner has to have the same religion. It’s non-negotiable.
It doesn’t matter whether you met someone who treats you right, responsible and caring — if he/she isn’t Muslim, that doesn’t count.
This perspective results in so many conflicts among my friends who like a guy/girl from different religions.
While kudos to those who prioritize religion over anything, I personally don’t think that’s all you need for a serious relationship.
In today’s modern dating, many people have some sort of “requirements” that their future partner needs to have.
Looking good on paper has become so much more important than anything else. Singles overlook the importance of having someone who’s caring and committed.
Why?
Because they don’t look that “cool” from the outside.
A friend of mine who’s currently active on Bumble told me that she found the perfect guy to settle down with.
A house in his name, a long-term promising career in finance, tall, and religious.
The list is endless.
3 months after getting to know him closely, she admits she’s wrong. He’s clearly not “the one” because apparently, he lies a lot. He also tends to come and go whenever he likes it.
The last straw? He likes to borrow money from her and then ghost her for at least a week.
It sucks.
But it’s one of the dating stories that shows me that your “requirements” might mean nothing. They don’t help in building a genuine and long-term relationship.
I mean, I get it. It’s so easy to fall for the potential.
But time is the only thing that can tell you whether this person is worth it or not.
So the next time you swipe to someone who’s so good on paper, give yourself some time. Don’t jump ship and declare that she/he is the love of your life.
Because everything fades. You need more than just a pretty face to make it work.
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